Randoms
I woke up late this morning. Well actually I woke up early, then napped until about 11.
During the night, some random had msg’d me, wanting to know if I wanted to have coffee or lunch. Not having anything better to do today, I thought ‘Why not’, and headed into the city after sorting out the where and whens.
I went to Dragon Boat on Lonsdale, which you can always get into for Yum Cha, even without a booking. I call it ‘consistently average’. Nothing spectacular, but it tastes ok and doesn’t make you shit.
So this random turns up a bit late, blaming the train or tram. That’s fair enough.. they’re never on time. Connex, that is.
We ordered a few things, and chatted a bit. Seemed ok, until the conversation got around to ex’s. I mean that was ok, until I asked about his. I think some shrink would have paid him to have a session, coz he came out with some amazingly weird ideas on why he’d only had 2 rships and why they failed etc.
I started noticing a common flaw in his arguments, it was all ‘the guy did’ or ‘the guy didn’t’. I pointed out that out of both his relationships and subsequent attempts, he got out exactly what he put into them. Nothing.
Which is exactly true. If you expect everything to be served up to you on a silver platter like the world owes you something, you may as well do yourself and everyone else a favour and go die already. The world doesn’t need any more people like that.
Needless to say being told the truth (raw, straightforward, without sugar coating – i’m very good at that) didn’t go down well, as he wanted to hear the pandering and bullshit. Silence followed, which was fine as it was time for the bill. Split 50/50 (obviously initiated by me), and then parted company.
Next!
Now i’m off to a friend’s housewarming party. Should be much more fun! 
08.Feb.09 
Bitching, Random 
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Denial
Considering neither Civil Partnerships nor Gay Marriages are legally recognised in Australia, a lot of us homos live with ‘housemates’. I mean, that’s what I put on my Census form a couple of years ago. If I was on the dole, that’s what i’d put on that too – so i’d get the individual payment rate.
I was browsing News.com.au this morning, and found Thorpie’s at it again. Just incase you didn’t believe him last time, he’s still not gay.
Just because he’s been living with a Brazillian housemate for the last few years, they both visit his family in Brazil, the family comes to visit them in Sydney.. doesn’t mean anything. Ahem.
And hanging out with Giorgio Armani and designing underwear was purely a normal straight thing to do too, remember. Funny how the straight boys I know can never remember to change their underwear, let alone how to design em.
Money talks, bullshit walks.
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30.Jan.09 Random Comments (0)
Year of the bollOX
Gong Xi Fa Chai!
This year ahead looks like it’ll be interesting. Hopefully, anyway, if you can put any stock in these fortune forecasts.
If you don’t know your sign, you can check here.
I’m evidently a Fire Dragon (Day), an Earth Tiger (Month), or more generally a Metal Monkey (Year). Dunno what the first two represent, everything seems to work off the Year.
In the year of 2009, there are many Lucky Stars coming to Monkey people. So they have complete new luck and they can expect good news from career, money, reputation, love or happiness areas.
Career: There are three major Lucky Career Stars appearing in 2009. Those signs indicate you will have an extraordinary and outstanding achievement in your job performance or business development.
Money: There is a Lucky Money Star showing in this year. Since you have a good career luck, your salary fixed income will be satisfactory. If you work for someone, you might earn an extra bonus.
Love: One very Auspicious Star and a Happy Star are gathering in love area. That is the sign of success, happiness, joyfulness, smooth (?) or marriage. If you are single, then you have opportunity to find your dream companion and enjoy the happy love life.
Woohoo, bring it on! I’ve already had a good start to the Year of the Ox, so let’s hope they’re right.. haha
26.Jan.09 Fun, Random Comments (0)
Diatribe
Oh, how the mighty have fallen; how’s the view from down here with the rest of us?
Oxymoron: Cruising MH with the status of ‘Not Looking’. Riiiight..
Obviously a completely fulfilling relationship, that one. Haha.
24.Jan.09 Random Comments (0)
Happy New Year?
As 2008 draws to a close and we enter 2009, we think about the year that was and what we’re planning for the new year. Plans, Hopes, New Years’ Resolutions, etc.
Sometimes you wish life had an ‘Undo’ button. If it did, i’d certainly be hitting it to undo this last year, it’s been a washout. About the only good thing that happened was that I got a new job. So, umm, yay.
Robyn: Should Have Known
I should have seen it coming,
I should have fucking known.
How could I let you play me,
I don’t even knowI should have seen it coming,
I should have fucking known.
How could I let you play with me,
I don’t even know.I’m such a fool,
I can’t believe I let you in my life.
You broke the rules,
but I should have known you do it all the time.Thought we were cool but then again who am I kidding
It’s every players favourite crime,
to make you feel,
like it’s all real,
when it’s a lie,
and I should have knownI should have seen it coming,
I should have fucking known.
How could I let you play me,
I don´t even know.I should have seen it coming down,
I should have fucking known.
How could I let you play with me,
I don´t even know.I should have known,
my family they never did pretend.
My mama felt,
she never liked you neither did my friends.
And when you blamed it all on me I should have known that’s what liars always try to do.
It wasn’t me,
It was you,
you’re the fool,
and I should have known.I should have seen it coming down,
I should have fucking known.
How could I let you play with me,
I don´t even know.I should have seen it coming down,
I should have fucking known.
How could I let you play with me,
I don´t even know.I should have seen it coming down,
I should have fucking known.
How could I let you play with me,
I don´t even know.I should have seen it coming down,
I should have fucking known.
How could I let you play with me,
I don´t even know.If your heart was simple just like mine is,
then you would know just how it feels,
When someone takes advantage of your kindness,
you think you’re never gonna heal
If your soul was deep just like mine is,
then you would know not to give up,
Keep my faith, even through the darkness,
yeah I still believe in love.I still believe, I still believe, I still believe.
How could I let you play with me,
I don´t even know.
31.Dec.08 Random Comments (0)
Uppers and Downers
No, i’m not talking about drugs. I’m talking about emotions. All that shit that goes on in our heads which makes us do and think stupid things.
It seems that with each Upper, there’s a Downer just around the corner. Which really sucks.
(No offense, Alexander. Heh heh heh.)
I can see why people consult psychics, clairvoyants, tarot readers and all manner of other future seers. It’s not that these people are any good at what they do, and it’s not that the client is a gullible fool (though depending on how much you pay for your fortune, yes you may be a total douche), it’s that they give you something you can rationalize to be a truth, in some dysfunctional way.
We humans like things that are tangible. Solid. Stuff we can hold onto. Stuff we can believe in.
Tangent: Ooh, how’s this for a pun: Depending on how much you pay for your fortune to be told, you may not even have a fortune anymore. No? Oh well. There is no spoon either, you daft bastard.
Our interaction with others is what makes the world go round and our lives so enriched, but it’s also what makes those shrinks with their comfy couches so rich, too.
I think we’d all be better off if we could be more straightforward, say exactly what we think, do exactly what we say, and stop hoping for what may be. But then we wouldn’t be human anymore, would we?
Wow, this is all just too deep for this hour of the day, I better go do something inane and unthinking. Like work, maybe.
Or I might dust off my Magic8ball.exe and give it a whirl, but i’m sure as hell not TXTing some 1900 number for random computer generated guidance. And shove that cookie up your ass, grandma. It’s burnt.
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30.Dec.08 Random Comments (0)
Birds of a feather…
The process of getting to know new people is both a large one, and also an interesting one – for the most part.
Some of the people you meet may be potential boyfriends, others you might have things in common with but no romantic interests in (ie just friends), and others… you quickly eliminate altogether, and not waste any more time on.
MaX: I’m going to see kylie with a friend tonight
MaX: should be interesting
mr chee – 齐俊: kylie??
MaX: you know, the singer?
mr chee – 齐俊: ooo
MaX: lol
MaX: are you sure you’re gay?
mr chee – 齐俊: y asking?
MaX: you didn’t seem to know who kylie is
MaX: lol
mr chee – 齐俊: is kylie gay?
MaX: no, but she’s a gay icon
MaX: like madonna
mr chee – 齐俊: oooo
MaX: you do know who madonna is, rite?
mr chee – 齐俊: yea
mr chee – 齐俊: u have pic here??
MaX: I sent you two pics last night
MaX: which are the same ones as on my fridae profile, to which you msgd
MaX: remember now?
mr chee – 齐俊: oooo
Reminds me of a Homer Simpson quote… “Me lose brain? Uh oh.” (All laugh..) “Why I laugh?”…
If you do find someone interesting enough to fall into the potential boyfriend category, there are a couple of shortcuts you can take which might save you some time.
Get to know their friends. As the saying goes, “birds of a feather flock together”. In simple terms, If most of his friends are tools, chances are you’re not going to like him after you get to know him well either.
When I say well, sometimes you only really get to know someone well when they move in with you. It’s only then that you see them as a whole, rather than what they want you to see when you’re together.
If they don’t have many friends, it’s harder to gauge what they’re like. In that case, you can just dive in and hope for the best, and hope you’re not wasting the next couple of years getting to know them.
22.Dec.08 Random Comments (2)
Bad vs Unfortunate
Sometimes situations happen where depending on how you look at the aforementioned situation, you could either be a bad person or merely a victim of circumstance.
I’m not sure which side of the fence i’m on with this one, but I think I may be a BAD MAN.
But then again, you can’t control the perceptions or hopes of other people. I never promised anything that I didn’t deliver. So maybe it’s not my fault. But i’m probably still a BAD MAN all the same.
Spank me!
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18.Dec.08 Random Comments (0)
Bursting out of the closet
It’s always interesting to hear the different stories we all have of how we came out.
Some ‘outings’ were more planned than others, and likewise, some received a more positive response than others.
A friend popped up on MSN recently. “My dad and I had an argument and the next thing I know… I told him I was gay…”
Not quite the best timing, but 10 points for doing it.
I remember coming out to my parents; being caucasian, it was pretty much a non-event. No hysterics, no dramas.
Mum was doing the washing when I told her. She paused a moment, then asked me who’d be giving her grandchildren. I hate kids, so procreation was never on my list of life goals. (But I do like practicing that, however.) Then she told me to go tell Dad, who was watching TV in the lounge. Being a Catholic who goes to Church every Sunday, Dad was likely to take the news a bit harder. When I told him, he was very quiet, then said that he was ‘very sad to hear that’.
The best thing about not living at home then, was that I announced I was going to head home, and I did. No awkward moments to endure while they were dealing with it. Plenty of space.
I’ve witnessed a varied range of parental reactions with some of my asian friends who came out, although sadly, most were negative.
There was Ryan, a ‘Princess’ from Brunei, who decided to come out when his mum came over for his graduation ceremony. She ordered him to pack up all his stuff out of the flat he and his bf were sharing, then she shipped him home. An easy way to break up I guess.. ‘It’s not my fault.. mum…’ – strangely convenient timing.
There was also Zac, who I dated for a couple of months. He was a half-Malay Singaporean with a Muslim upbringing. His dad was fairly computer savvy, and had found Zac’s blog after looking through the home computer’s IE history.
Zac was a bit camp, so that may have been why his Dad went hunting for confirmation in the first place. What he found detailed in the blog left no room for plausible deniability. Zac had detailed all his exploits – taking drugs, eating non-halal meats, man loving, wagging class, etc.
I’m not sure what his dad was most upset about – whether it was the eating of pork or the action of getting porked, but quicksmart he’d arranged the local Mufti to take Zac under house arrest his wing until the finish of the uni year, and then send him straight home for his National Service.
Another case was Vernon (another ex), who’d just come out and told his siblings he was gay about a month prior to when we started dating. This was October, and things were working out well – we both got along well together and had similar interests, and surprisingly he had no qualms in showing affection in public. I can remember one time where we walked hand-in-hand around Southland Shopping Centre. I think I was more self conscious at that point in time.
The only stumbling point was his sister. She was one of these people who think bashing someone over the head with a bible will cure them of any sin. Heck, if she had access to the tomes the 10 Commandments were written on, she’d bludgeon you with those instead. She’d go to bible class, and invite the class over on the weekend to bake muffins. Needless to say, she didn’t approve of her little brother’s life choice – but she tolerated it. Or so I thought. Rather, she was biding her time.
Christmas was looming, and as most international students do, they head home for Xmas/CNY. Once they were back home in Malaysia, she outed him to the parents, who naturally did the whole Asian shame / save-face thing. And naturally, he complied. “I’ll be straight, i’ll get married and have kids, coz that’s what mum and dad want me to do.” I think that lasted for about 2 months after he got back, but by then, I was history.
Happier stories include one Malaysian friend who told his mum, who didn’t seem too fussed – she just told him not to tell his father.
Probably the most accepting would be the parents of a Filipino friend. He has these bizarre conversations with his mum. Occasionally she’ll check to see if he’s gone straight, by asking ‘Do you like girls yet?’, to which he replies, ‘Mum, you don’t like vagina, do you? No.. Neither do I. I like cock, just like you!’
How Asian parents can sometimes turn a blind eye is amazing. The boy could be the minciest queen around (case and point: my Thai ex-housemate who came out to his mum at his birthday party by parading in drag..), yet somehow these parents can put up this wall of blind denial, that until you say that magic phrase, ‘I AM GAY’, they can delude themselves their son is straight.
25.Nov.08 Random Comments (0)
Out of the woodwork
Today, whilst Andrew and I were out househunting (for him), we looked at a place in Moonee Ponds. Not a bad place, but a bit overpriced for what it was. Anyway, guess who I ran into there?
My third Ex, Vernon. I hadn’t run into him anywhere in Melbourne, ever, since Jason’s (his friend’s) 21st Birthday party. He looked much the same as he did back then, asian genes and all that.
We broke up amidst his coming out – his bitch sister outed him to the parents when he went home to Malaysia for Christmas, wherein all hell broke loose. Upon his return to Melbourne, he’d promised to go straight etc and do what the parents wanted. Hence why we broke up. Maybe?
Barely a few months later, i’d heard he was a regular scene queen at Exchange and wherever else, then becoming attached.
Normally when you ditch a boyfriend and get a new one, you trade up. Maybe the guy I saw today had a nice personality, but wow, talk about trading down. But as long as he’s happy, eh. Lol.
22.Nov.08 Random Comments (0)
